What Does it Mean to be Bisexual?

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Are you questioning your sexuality and wondering if you might be bisexual? If so, you’re not alone. Bisexuality is increasing in the USA, with 2% of men now identifying as bisexual. So, if you think you may be attracted to men as well as women, don’t worry – many guys are going through the exact same thing. Working out your sexual orientation can be difficult and confusing, particularly as there is still a stigma around bisexuality in men. Some people think bi guys are simply confused, greedy, or even just going through a phase. Some even argue that bisexuality doesn’t exist at all, which just isn’t true. The truth is, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with being bisexual, and you shouldn’t let outdated views prevent you from coming out and living the life you really want to lead. Here are the biggest signs you’re not straight.

The Biggest Male Bisexuality Signs

Working out if you’re straight, bisexual, or gay can be a tough task, and it isn’t something that’s likely to happen overnight. Many men spend years deciding which team they play for, and some never put a label on themselves at all. However, there are some big signs that you’re not straight and maybe leaning towards being bisexual. Here are the biggest male bisexuality signs.

You’ve Been Attracted to Men More than Once

If you’re not sure how to know if you're bisexual, ask yourself if your attraction to guys goes beyond simply liking them as a person or finding them attractive objectively. If you can actually imagine yourself getting down and dirty with a man, there’s a good chance you’re not straight. What’s more, this is increasingly likely if you’ve been sexually attracted to the opposite gender more than once. If you’ve started to consistently experience sexual attraction to guys in the same way you’ve experienced it with women, you could be bisexual.

You Fantasize About Men when You’re with Women

This is one of the clearest signs that you’re not straight. If you’re getting intimate with a woman and you can’t stop yourself fantasizing about sex with men, you might be bi. You can enjoy sex with ladies, but there’s something at the back of your mind wishing a man was involved too! Don’t feel guilty – simply update your dating profile to bi and start finding guys to act out your biggest fantasies with. Your fantasies are unlikely to go away and may become even more intense over time if you ignore them.

You Watch Porn with all Genders, and it Turns You On

A recent study claims that women are bisexual or lesbian if they experience arousal from viewing lesbian porn, even if they identify as heterosexual. So, it makes sense that this works for men too. If you get off watching porn that features both gay and straight sex and you feel a desire to act on it, there’s a good chance you’re bisexual.

Sex Feels Right with all Genders

Many men wonder, ‘how do you know if you’re bisexual?’ and the biggest sign is usually when sex feels right with both men and women. Often, when heterosexuals hook up with people of their own gender, it’s nothing special. They can take it or leave it. Comparatively, when gay or bi people do it, it feels just right, like sex is meant to be. If you have had sex with both genders and enjoyed it, you’re probably bi.

What Is the Difference Between Bisexual and Pansexual?

Many men think they’re bisexual, but what about pansexual? Pansexuality isn’t a term that many people are very familiar with outside the LGBTQ community. However, it’s worth taking a look at it and how it differs from bisexuality. What it means to be bisexual is that you’re attracted to both men and women. Pansexual, on the other hand, means that you’re not limited in sexual choice with regard to gender. Some people think they’re the same thing. However, there’s a distinct difference in terms of gender identity. Whilst bisexuality suggests that there are just two genders (male and female), pansexuality implies that there are more. For example, people who identify as pansexual are happy to date or have sex with a transgender person. Really, it just means that they’re attracted to people of all genders, or that gender isn’t an issue when deciding if they’re attracted to someone.

How to Come out as Bisexual?

If you have realized that you’re bisexual, you may be ready to come out to those closest to you. Whilst being honest about your sexuality can be extremely liberating, it can be daunting, too, especially if you’re not sure what kind of response you’ll receive. The truth is, as long as you choose someone supportive to tell and you keep the conversation truthful and positive, there’s a good chance that things will go smoothly. Keep in mind that you don’t have to talk face to face. You could choose to write them a letter or email instead if this feels easier. This can take a lot of the pressure off. If you opt to speak in person, make sure you choose a suitable time and place. This is a very important thing to tell them, and it’s important that you’re not distracted or interrupted. Choose an occasion when you know you’ll be able to have a deep talk without being disturbed. Make sure you start the conversation off positively, as presenting the topic in a negative light may tell the listener that this is bad news when it isn’t.Figuring out your sexual orientation can be confusing and stressful, and you may feel pressured to put a label on yourself. However, the truth is, there’s absolutely no rush, and you’re allowed to take as long as you want to work it out. It’s also important to keep in mind that the words you use to describe your orientation are allowed to change and evolve over time, empowering you in so many ways.